Nightcharm
May 25, 2006
The Tabloids, the Governor and the “Torrid Truckstops”
by John Calendo

Gay sex still manages to titilate the yahoos, especially when they write for the New York Post, Rupert Murdock’s right-wing tabloid. Take the case of James McGreevey, former governor of New Jersey who is about to publish a tell-all memoir, The Confession..

Tabloid headlinesYou may remember McGreevey from a widely televised press conference where, flanked by his wife and appointees, he announced, “I am a gay American.”

He was resigning the governorship because he preferred to come out rather than be blackmailed by a disgruntled boyfriend. McGreevey made no apologies for his homosexuality, didn’t pretend he was really having a drinking problem or would soon seek counsel from his minister. No, McGreevey came out and did so without equivocation.

“I begin my own new journey as an American who just happens to be gay and proud.” he said as the flashbulbs went off around him.

The announcement was both praised and condemned — though some savvy politicos saw the gay admission as a skillful smoke-screen intended to eclipse — as indeed, it did — the underlying corruption and cronyism of New Jersey’s business-as-usual politics.

McGreevey and his appointees were the targets of several serious investigations at the time. Not that this was anything new for a sitting governor of the Garden State. I live in New Jersey, home of Tony Soprano, and believe me, it’s no accident that there’s a saying in the deep South among politicians living high off their office: “Thank God, there’ll always be a New Jersey.” So blatant is career corruption here that I once wanted to design the state t-shirt: “New Jersey — You Got a Problem With That?”

McGreevey with flagCertainly in a state as solidly Democrat and union-run as mine, a gay governor would not have provoked the sort of hysteric outcry we might expect elsewhere. Yes, he was married and the father of two daughters but after his public announcement his high poll numbers remained solid. He became a sympathetic figure. There was even a grassroots move to have him rescind his resignation.

Yet he didn’t. Why? Well, when it came to our cute-as-a-button governor, there was plenty of actual scandal to go around.

His disgruntled boyfriend (below) — a ringer for Eric McCormack from Will & Grace — was a hot Israeli that McGreevey had promoted to the sensitive job of Homeland Security adviser despite a complete lack of credentials, and over the objections of the FBI which would not grant him clearance because he was a foreign national. Yet McGreevey awarded him the $110,000-a-year job anyway. This, in a post-9/11 New Jersey where the fumes from the burning Twin Towers could still be seen from across the Hudson River for weeks after the attack.

Cipel and McGreeveyMcGreevey’s Confession, while heavy on the tortured coming-out tale, makes no mention of his 4-year affair with the former aide. We do learn that since leaving office, leaving his wife, and setting up house with a new boyfriend, the first out governor in American history has kept a low profile, give or take a few Lambda Legal Defense fund-raisers, including one on Fire Island where he angled for photos with Sex and the City’s Samantha, Kim Cattrall. (But then, who wouldn’t.)

It wasn’t until McGreevey’s appearance this week at Book Expo America, the publishing industry’s largest annual convention, to promote the September release of his book that he met up with the press once again. McGreevey’s publisher had released 16 pages of excerpts from the book, spurring the New York Post to new heights of salacious rhetoric. “A turgidly written tale,” the tab sniffed, “whose subject matter sometimes seems better suited to a sleazy dime-store paperback than to a former governor’s memoir.”

Ah well, the New York Post — always a stalwart of the gutter press and a treasure house of leering, low-brow innuendo — knows well of what its speaks. Never a bore, always the Page Six gossip-rag of record, the Post describes the McGreevey excerpts in high tabloid-speak, managing to be both shrilly homophobic and hysterically funny. Their piece comes out of the gate, virtually shrieking:

Jim McGreevey shockingly admits that before he became governor of New Jersey, he’d have anonymous gay sex at Garden State highway rest stops.

“All I knew was that my behavior was getting crazier and crazier,” McGreevey says of his torrid truck-stop trysts in an upcoming book that details his tortured life of lies and sexual repression.

“With each new encounter, I was getting nearer and nearer to being caught — which surely would have generated headlines, especially after I became executive director of the state parole board” in the mid-1980s.

“The closet starves a man, and when he gets a chance he gorges till it sickens him,” he writes in his book, titled The Confession.

… [The ex-governor] describes … his fruitless attempts to conquer or hide his homosexuality by ogling Playboy centerfolds, frequenting strip clubs and becoming “as avid a womanizer as anybody else on the New Jersey political scene.”

“The more the rumors circulated, the more public and brazen I became about my heterosexual conquests,” the twice-married father-of-two writes.

The Confession, coverThe Post’s overheated huffing and puffing is absolutely relentless. And once again we hear the curious titillation, the prurient thrill that always ripples through this sort of writing, as if the scolds are actually getting off on it all, loving what they’re condemning even as they feel compelled to feign disgust and — that classic Post emotion — “shock.”

Compare this to the sober account of the same event in the New Jersey Star Ledger:

Former Gov. James E. McGreevey felt as if he were “marching slowly into hell” as he fought to overcome his homosexuality and failed, engaging in anonymous trysts with men at highway rest stops even as he polished the image that would propel him to the state’s highest office, he writes in his tell-all memoir.

“I’m doing great,” McGreevey, 48, said in a brief interview [at the Book Expo]. “I’m in a good place.”

McGreevey’s easy manner stood in contrast to the tone of the excerpts, which portray a tortured man struggling to subjugate desires demonized by his Catholic faith and by his family. Disclosure of his secret, he was certain, would derail the political career he coveted.

“I knew I would have to lie for the rest of my life — and I knew I was capable of it,” McGreevey writes. “The knowledge gave me a feeling of terrible power.”

… What he really craved, he writes, was a relationship with a man, and because he couldn’t have one out in the open, he resorted to hushed encounters.

“As glorious and meaningful as it would have been to have a loving and sound sexual experience with another man, I knew I’d have to undo my happiness step by step as I began chasing my dream of a public career and the kind of ‘acceptable’ life that went with it,” McGreevey writes.

“So, instead, I settled for the detached anonymity of bookstores and rest stops — a compromise, but one that was wholly unfulfilling and morally unsatisfactory.”

Not as much fun perhaps as the masturbatory prose of the Post. But accurate. Measured. And a man, I think, we can all recognize.

©2006 Nightcharm

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8 Responses to 'The Tabloids, the Governor and the “Torrid Truckstops”'
  1. Rudy Chavez remarks:

    Thank you for the informative article.

    Whatever happened with the Israeli guy? Does anybody know why he tried to blackmail McGreevey?

    I have a lot of respect for McGreevey. Rather than give in to blackmail, he chose to do what he concluded was best for him. He took the opportunity to come out in the open.

    It’s so easy–and painful–to read about what he went through, the pain that so many have gone–and will probably go through.


    May 25th, 2006 at 12:28 pm
  2. Jack Sharney remarks:

    I really feel for McGreevey. I wish him all the best in life that he can still have. I hope he finds the love he is looking for. I know how he feels, being in the closet myself and lying every day of my so called life.
    He is a handsome man and I would have gone with him anytime he
    asked. Alas, he never asked. The tabloids do not care how much
    they may hurt a decent person. Yes he is a decent person who is
    gay. Whoop-de-do. I wish I could spit in their faces for him.
    Jack


    May 25th, 2006 at 2:33 pm
  3. Poppa Dave remarks:

    New Jersey rest stops are the best eyecandy in the state short of the nude beach at Sandy Hook. The open urnals offer direct line of vision to the goods available. And there are usually pleanty of cocks to choose from. It’s little suprise that the Gov. sampled the offerings


    May 26th, 2006 at 4:22 am
  4. Derreck remarks:

    He was in a good position to come out though; the entire world knew instantly that he was gay. I am having trouble with making my sexual preferance known to the world, why can’t the world just sudenly know… ?


    May 26th, 2006 at 4:36 am
  5. Malcolm from London remarks:

    Tis a far cry from the barbarian days when acceptance of Achilles and his Patroclus, and Alexander the Great and his Hephaestion, were the norm


    May 26th, 2006 at 10:14 am
  6. Wesley remarks:

    Oh for Christ’s sake. Cry me a river, McGreevey.

    All gay people have struggles. Some of us had to deal with them when we thirteen–mere kids!–without the advantage of the emotional strength that age and maturity bring.

    I have no compassion for a middle-aged closet case sucking stangers’ dicks at a rest stop when he should have been pushing legislation to help gay people.


    May 26th, 2006 at 10:56 am
  7. toptricky from bcn remarks:

    I totally agree with WESLEY.
    and it´s funny to see how american people “normalize and minimize” all in a barnes&noble shelf.( if you say it in a book , then it´s OK)
    but, lets give “McGuiver” a chance to fight for the laws we all need.

    I love nightcharm


    May 29th, 2006 at 9:23 pm
  8. Nightcharm remarks:

    What was McGreevey’s record on gay rights when he was still a governor and a closet case?

    From the Washington Blade:

    Mixed record on gay rights

    In January [of 2004], McGreevey signed into law the Domestic Partnership Act, which allows gay couples to get access to medical benefits, insurance and other legal rights that are available to married people. At the time, McGreevey’s spokesperson, Micah Rasmussen, said the governor believed marriage is the union of one man and one woman.

    At another point in the same piece, a gay scholar reflects on McGreevey’s resignation announcement:

    Courage ‘overrated’?

    But not all prominent gays are rushing to McGreevey’s defense.

    “The ‘courage’ issue is overrated,” said gay historian Eric Marcus, author of Making Gay History: The Half Century Fight for Lesbian and Gay Equal Rights.

    “Being gay is the least of his problems. McGreevey and I are almost the same age. He had choices to make when he was a young man. He’s an educated guy who chose to remain in the closet.

    “He married not once, but twice, the second time late in his life when he had to know he was gay. He appointed an adulterous romantic partner to a state job for which he wasn’t qualified. And the way he constructed his speech it felt like he was using his gay identity to deflect attention from what was really going on. I find myself curiously without sympathy for his situation.”


    May 30th, 2006 at 5:02 am

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