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Is it that important that we wage war on our body hair? How long has this been going on? What sick mind set the wheels in motion that we should venerate the hairless and look down on those gifted with a nice chest of fuzz? Do a search on the web for “body hair” and I challenge you to find one site that doesn’t demand you join the fight against unsightly body hair.
You’ll find three things: body hair removal techniques, Rogaine ads, or pages about hair fetishes.
Bust out a porn magazine (not Bear or Honcho) and you will not find anything but shaved chests, bald ball sacks, and depilated ass cracks. Same goes for almost all porn movies presently. When did hair get so disgusting to us that we need to remove it from the places it was supposed to be? Was there a big memo about killer crab lice?
I have a few ideas. Gay men are obsessed to the point of illness with youth and holding onto it like we all lived in the movie Logan’s Run. We are taught when we come out that we have to be tanned until we look orange, and our body hair must be torn out or burned out at the roots just to fit in. To me, this is sick beyond comprehension. It’s one thing to look good, but it’s entirely another to look like we stepped off the set of a B-movie about radiation.
Article 175 of the Japanese Criminal Code provides the backbone of all anti-pornography legislation in Japan, and has a number of peculiarities. Pubic hair and adult genitalia cannot be depicted, and touching groins may not be shown. However, “extremely cartoony” depictions of genitals are ok. Is there some hidden connection I’m missing between cartoon depictions of sex and what we see in motion picture porn? It would explain why porn stars look the way they do.
Tom of Finland drawings show extremely cartoony depictions of fag sex. That’s a fact. The engorged, arm-sized cocks, man-breasts clad in leather and cop uniforms, and the peculiar absence of hair depict what can never be. Even funnier are the gym bunnies out in Chelsea, West Hollywood, and even in the Westport neighborhood in Kansas City pumping their pecs and glutes to abnormal proportions, trying to attain this superhuman fantasy of what it is to be a man. Unfortunately, this “gay icon” is so burned onto mainstream gay minds that it will never be realized for what it was meant to represent — the personification of what Tom saw as male. Instead, fags are ridiculed by their peers to feel that they must attain this gay version of Barbie in order to feel attractive.
Have you noticed how almost everyone is shaving their heads now? This I blame on television, movies, and the World Wrestling Federation. When a bald guy walked onto the screen five short years ago, you knew he was a bad-ass or a villain. Well, guys, um — doing it too doesn’t make you any more bad then you were when you had frosted blonde hair. I talked to a skinhead truckdriver a little while back and we both agreed that it was hard to tell sometimes if a guy is being trendy or if he’s a skin. I almost wish long hair would make a comeback so I could spot skinheads easier.
All that bullshit aside, I like a guy with hairy armpits, hair on his ass, his chest and around his cock. If you are a guy that is naturally less hairy, well, that’s life and I can deal with that. Nothing beats the way a guy smells when he works up a sweat during sex. Even the way I smell after I’ve started to get a little funky in those areas too can be great during those special moments alone. You smell good and attractive when you sweat a bit and some guys smell great when they sweat a gallon or three. The pheromones secreted in sweat jumpstart my hard-on and send my brain into hyperdrive. It’s the phony cologne, deodorant, and shaved parts that always leaves me wondering what that guy really was like before all the alterations.
Drubskin, also known as Drub, is a longtime Nightcharm contributor. He is a San Diego-based homoerotic, homomasculine fetish artist and a member of Skinheads Against Racial Prejudice.
His artwork focuses on scenes involving punk, skinhead, skater and working class, kinky, gay sexuality. His work is done in a comic book style, with bright colors and solid quality of line.
Drub’s works play well with the younger gay crowd in which he makes good with via Weblog technology, gallery shows, magazines and a knack for marketing.
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I agree with you about the shaved heads, pubes and pits. A guy with no pubic hair is like a pre-pubescent teen. Not really a man as yet. Trimmed pubes are ok but not to the extent that some
guys go to. They want to remove hair on their bodies but they
are too damn lazy to shave their faces. That is another trend you
can blame on Hollywood.
Guys if you have pubes, trim a little if necessary, but don’t shave them the way the girls do. Sometimes it is difficult to tell the difference.
The reason I’m gay is I like to have sex with men and men have hair on their bodies. Guys who shave off body hair are about as sexually appealing to me as a little girl. They’re the same type who think circumcision is really cool because its “hygenic.” In reality they’re an bunch of mutilated freaks of nature. Yuck!
Pubes are hot. Guys that shave their crotches look like little boys…not hot. Body hair is another matter. I like ‘em smooth, NATURALLY smooth. A genetically smooth body tops my list, and I’m not too into hairy guys, but a shaved/waxed/lasered body is even less attractive than a hairy one. And the deisre for youth has little to do with it for me. I think body hair harks back to the caveman days, and this is exactly why so many of us find it sexy. I personally prefer the more “advanced” look, and I’m VERY glad we’ve left the caves behind. The more we evolve, the smoother we get. That’s a fact. And one I embrace. That said, I still like those certain zones to stay hairy.
The Chippendales are to blame for the whole body shaving thing. They started the trend in the Eighties when they burst onto the scene and set the standard for the “ideal” body. Their huge popularity sparked the whole “male grooming” explosion. Prior to them, all males in porn mags and vids were always in their “natural” hairy state. Shaving the pubic area is a more recent phenomenon, whose blame lies at the door of the porn industry. Shaved pubes makes a man’s cock “appear” bigger, that’s why a lot of male pornstars shave around that region. Let’s face it, whatever the trend is in porn will eventually go mainstream – which just goes to show how strongly we are inflenced by porn! But I think the worst trend at the moment is men tweezing their eyebrows. I want my men to look like men, not wannabe drag queens! Further proof of de-masculination of men in recent years – Blechhh!
I really LOVE some hair on a guy, I mean; what’s a guy without his love trail!? Besides, it’s part of liking men: guys = hair, it’s all natural, why remove it? Hair comes with the guy, same as a dick and all other things we know we love.
Okay, guys with long hair are a turn off to me same as skinheads, but trimmed blonde hair (when lucky curly) are really something you can wake me up for at 3 AM. EVEN if it’s just some drunk frat guy (especially a drunk frat
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Besides, some facial hair is good too, a goatee, sideburns, or even a little beard. All is good, and it IS sad that everyone thinks gay men have very little or even no hair left. I blame porn for it too, and the guys that follow that trend. I mean, what fun is loving a guy without hair you can touch and tickle, it’s so NOT cute. And okay, maybe some people enjoy sex better without too much hair, but life is more than sex. (right?)
hear hear (from a bear loving cub who loves men as they naturally are, furry, bearded etc.). I do shave my head but it’s laziness and balding – I’ve been going grey and balding since my mid teens.
Don’t get me wrong balding men with sideys are hot also, I like both!
It is weird though that this has become a fetish, and adding all these fake tans and highlights have become the norm – I mean how can not waxing and not shaving be somehow radical or wrong? It’s very weird.
The whole ideal thing is even in the bear scene now though – after a while the porn publishers, magazine owners and the like want to commodify an image into something more sellable – so the big furry bear guys you could’ve see down the road have now mostly become muscle queens with beards and some fur who have and ‘unobtainable’ image. Actually I’m not sure if it’s the audience or the publishers who are doing it, or both…
But certainly a drive to make an Ken-style model of beauty is good for business – the gyms, the hair products, the tanning salons, all who funnily enough, sponsor these magazines…
Welcome to our world, guys. We girls have been having to shun body hair for quite awhile, and it sucks. I mean, the maintenance! The prepubescent look isn’t good for anyone who isn’t actually prepubescent. Basic grooming is one thing, of course, but I’m getting more and more convinced that there’s some bizarre Nair/Edge/Sally Hansen conspiracy out there.
Wait a minute, what’s with the long hair comments? I personally have a good foot and a half of brown hair and my boyfriend has hair that goes to his shoulders when straightened (he’s of Italian descent so he’s got body hair in all the right places and plenty of curly locks). Why is long hair on guys shunned by the gays and straights alike? I really like my look and I in no way look girly. In fact I feel like it makes me look older and a little more masculine. What is it about long hair that gets on everyone’s nerves?
I agree with the article as a whole though. If it’s there it’s there for a reason (unless you have a large pre-cancerous mole or 3rd arm) and it should stay. Some guys sculpt and that’s ok, but shaving’s just not cool.
I LOOOOVE long hair. Used to have quite a head of it myself, long straight and black, made me look like that kid from the Jungle Book. And guys loved it. It gets on my nerves too when gay men show such disdain for long hair. Bitches. They sound like some uptight religious aunt who needs to get over it. Hairstyles evolve, and long hair looks great on a lot of guys.
Wow… I didn’t realize this ol’ chestnut would get this much play! It’s good to see a nice and healthy dialogue about body hair (or the lack of). All that matters at the end of the day is you are happy with what you got… some guys can pull off long hair (very few from my point of view), some guys shouldn’t shave their heads (Billy Corgan of Smashing Pumpkins, anyone? Yech! Evil Gnome.).
I do agree that hairstyles evolve and change. The mullet? The fauxhawk? Speaking of hair to hate, that 70’s hair is back with a vengeance. One thing is for sure – I just don’t have to like ‘em. Trends are such a strange thing from a sociological point of view.
Beyond this superficial pet peeve of mine, body fascism is a whole lot more terrible than something that changes faster than we mow some of lawns. Porn can be truly disappointing, so I’m so glad somebody invented the multi-loading disk changer for DVD players. I realize it’s fantasy we’re after, but I just don’t dote on people like that. I live in San Diego, I see them grocery shopping. Nothing fantastic there.
Hairy or shaven? Hmmm…depends on the guy. I definitely love hairiness, but there’s something hot to me (in theory, anyway) about a young frat/college guy who shaves his balls and ass. I guess it’s the feminization of it, that some stereotypical cologned and gelled dude feels the need to groom themselves to that extent.
Any amount of hair hides thebodies definition – something which I would assume any gay man would like to see. ie Less hair = more muscles. All classic sculpture of the classic human nude is also appreciated for it’s form and definition, not for unsightly undefined wool. If I wan’t a jersey I buy one in a shop.
acquiantences and family (with good intention) try to relate to me by asking if I’ve seen the latest ‘queer eye’, ‘will and grace’, or ‘project runway’…thier only interaction with homo’s has been repeatedly branded with particular, peculiar margin.
Which reminds me of the year I came out and shaving my dick for the first time.
I fully appreciate the idea Dennis mentioned. Plenty of gay guys when faced with this sort of issue say things like “Being a gay man means being attracted to men, so men who are less ‘manly’ are usually less attractive” and actually, I agree. Sadly this logic doesn’t seem to apply to me. I find the idea of hair on the shoulders, back, neck, feet and ‘ass’ (as Americans say) highly uncivilised although on OTHER men it wouldn’t put me off at all. If he has a gorgeous face and a reasonable figure than I probably wouldn’t care two hoots about his body hair.
BUT in defence of those obsessive shavers out there, who have probably been too scared to comment in case all the above rabid hairy-fans shun them to kingdom-come, I will say this: Where is the excessive body hair on Michael Angelo’s David? Eh? It is all very well claiming that hair is natural and cave-man instincts still boil and froth within us, but these arguments are a little invalid in the context of modern life. Little else of today’s world is as it was in the days of pre-history so it is, really, just a feeble excuse for laziness. In fact the whole point of developing as a human race is to get further from the hairy and ignorant cave man from whence we came. Waxing certain places strikes me as a symbol of refinement, as well as a simple sign that a man has thought about his appearance…and has a high pain-threshold.
In our society girls have to spend hours on their appearance if they wish to keep up with their peers. For many men, their morning routine is nothing more arduous then rolling out of bed and, on a good day; washing. This is unfair and, frankly; sexist, too. So either both sexes should take a slap-dash and lazy attitude to our looks (all fine and well if you have naturally resilient hair, a good complexion and a very high metabolism) OR both women AND men should have a bit of pride in the fact that they are civilised peoples. As one modern book on social etiquette says “The ken-like porn star look is never the way to go, but no well-bred gent will have hair on his shoulders, back or bum. And if you don’t remove it: Someone else will!”
I have to say that it pains me that so few men (especially here) would find me attractive as I do find myself instinctively inclined towards SOME women’s clothing, which is more flattering, long hair, and make-up (after all, the core idea of make up is to improve one’s features…I don’t see why women should be the only ones to have this privilege). Those unaccustomed to men looking like me would call me a transvestite or a drag queen if they caught me on one of my more ‘extreme’ days. http://www.myspace.com/6247738 That is the link to my myspace and I think that most of you here would find me repellent as I look like, probably, a girl! But this is the way I like to look and even if it is to the detriment of my general attractiveness to ordinary men, I am happier and more confident, and THAT my friends is what counts.
Surely great thick pube-like hairs on ones shoulders and back, is a different ball-game entirely from a nice treasure trail? Surely body hair is not just one issue? People here have talked about hair in ‘all the right places’…well what about those of us with hair in the WRONG places. Surely we must be permitted to take some sort of action without worry of being subjected to the scrutiny of our fellow gayers?
After all, obviously it is a personal choice and, as you may have gathered I am in two minds about the whole thing. In the first instance I wish that all men waxed so that I looked a little less girly and vain. On the other hand; body hair is something that men have and one thing that sets them aside from women. It hasn’t got the power to render someone attractive or ugly…it either is there; or it isn’t. But it would appear as always that I expect one set of rules to apply to me, and another to everyone else. Luckily in this case the rule applying to you lot is quite a relaxed one.
In conclusion; do what you like, boys. Do what you like.
Amen, brother, amen!!!!
“I have to say that it pains me that so few men (especially here) would find me attractive as I do find myself”
Ha-ha, jude. Cheers, but that isn’t what I meant as anyone who troubled themselves to read the rest of the sentence would realise. And it isn’t grammatically correct, either.
The person you can curse for this bald/shaved prissy body look is Steven Scarborough from Hot House Video. When he worked for Falcon Studios in the early eighties his motto was: “bodyhair=dirty=AIDS”. At the time he was the trendsetter in porn (my how the mighty have fallen) and all the sheep followed him. Then when the fascist ChiChi La Pig started directing everything from Falcon/All Worlds/Catalina etc. he/she continued the trend.
And fashion obviously influnces things, too. Nearly every Dsquared2, D&G, John Galliano or Roberto Cavalli show has atleast one model waxed ‘n’ oiled on the runway. And boys in more mainstream things like Calvin Klien ads are hairless, more often then not.
I think this very article and discussion shows that artifical smoothness (for men) is going out of fashion. I mean, when straight guys start shaving their assholes, you know the trend is stale.
i will only say that the ad types at the top of this page have certainly sexy bodies and i wouldn’t reject them unless the chap just below with the hairy chest, stomach, armpits and sexy pubes framing that cock came along. then there is no contest. the hairless can be sexy when it is natural but does not cause the same chemical reaction as the man with hair. instant erection factor. also it is always apparent to my eye when one is unnaturally hairless. and men do you think that prickly stubble on the chest, ass etc. is a turn on? yuck. if fenomanalogy is right then we are well on the way. in my last sport studio in germany it was mostly heteros who were artfully if not totally shaved and otherwise dipilitorized. pubes, armpits and all. this all began with the demasculization (my word)of men in the usa post feminist movement and the onslaught of political correctness. Real Men, Sean Connery 007 men were offensive and too threatening to the new media campaigns and to sexually frightened and uptight cultures like us america.
PS Michaelangelo etc. and also the ancient greeks and romans did not depict hair on their statues due to aesthetics but trying to sculpt body hair in marble, stone or bronze would have taken long years as any artist or art knowledgeable person can tell you.
legend – Good point, but surely not hard to paint?!
I once read that men in ancient Rome shaved their legs as a matter of hygiene, so maybe that’s part of the origin of smooth classical nudes. But I also think those cultures used to make a distinction between the ideal image and reality, unlike today, when everyone is supposed to have a six-pack stomach and perfectly white teeth like advertising models.
As a nudist, I see a lot of naked bodies. Some guys who have gone bald shave their heads. I find it sexy. Some guys I find look great shaved. Those are the ones with very little body hair. I like bears muscled and lumpy. I find a guy that has body hair very masculine. I like bears trimmed and untrimmed. What I fine gross is a hairy guy with shaved pubes. It doesn’t work.
The Romans didn’t have soap so they would use olive oil as a cleaning agent and a scupula to scrape away the dirt and grime. The men also plucked their beards. Thank the gods the Celts invented soap.
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I am gay. I am a professional boxer. I am one of the best conditioned athletes on the planet! I am also one of the baddest men on the planet! I shave my body, I have very little hair. Does that make me weak? Does that make me feminine? I don’t think so! Why are people so judgmental? I believe people should do what makes them feel good (minus drugs and alcohol) and be who they want to be. What if we were all fat, hairy, ape looking creatures, then there would be no such thing as individuality. Some men look great hairy. Some men look great with a belly. I look at the individual and I do not stereotype. I am not one to judge other people and neither are you!
First, anyone complaining about the “de-masculinization” of men these days, not to put too fine a point on it, needs his head examined. How much more “masculine” do you WANT it already? I like smooth bodies, on boys or girls. I like long hair, on boys or girls. I like reasonably slender figures, on boys or girls. Am I wrong to like these things? I don’t think I’m being too demanding, but I can’t find ANYONE both male and gay who fits this profile (and who’s interested in me, natch–there must be something unsexy about me).
OK, background: I don’t shave often, but that’s because I’m too much of a chicken to shave because I’m afraid of the fallout it might cause. I’m bisexual, I have really long hair, I wear makeup occasionally, I love Spandex, I hang around in the Goth scene (despite having somewhat different music tastes). I NEVER hang around in the gay scene because there’s nothing there for me, as far as I can tell. Gay men seem absolutely consumed with trying to seem hypermasculine–even the femmes don’t “go femme” the way butch lesbians “go butch” (unless it’s all-out drag). In short, there seems to be something in the gay scene that wants to be, well, conservative about gender matters, and I don’t think people realize how many people that conservatism is leaving out.
Hmm, I searched for how attractive men with shaved heads are considered and this was one of the top results in Google. I will say that I wasn’t expecting this diatribe. But I might as well shave my head; more attractive or less attractive, I’ll be intolerable either way, so I might as well go for low maintenance. BTW, I did shave my body once and I thought I looked better, but it’s too much trouble (and I got too many cuts) for something that’s really not going to help me in the least. Also, I think shaved/waxed bodies often look good, but there’s something deeply sexy about a muscular man with body hair.
iv dated men that wear hairy and it wuz annoying lol z)