It seems that in this age of safer sex, men’s body fluids have become taboo, and the wetter the action the more forbidden it’s become. There are now even special terms for buttfucking without a condom: “bareback” and “raw.” It’s not politically correct to advocate unsafe sex, but allow me to boldly state a generally unspoken fact — fluid exchange is what it’s all about.

When two men melt into one another, their fluid passions are supposed to intermingle, too. When our body fluids mix, we share all sorts of hormones, and chemical processes occur. Of course, the world is no longer our petri dish, and it’s not safe to cruise around doing chemistry experiments with every man who makes eye contact. But in a monogamous relationship, consider some of the following fluid possibilities:

Like raindrops on roses, precum is one of my favorite things. Those clear glistening droplets are so wonderfully slick; they are perfect for basting a hard cock. When my man is looking at porn pics on the web, I love to sit under the table between his legs and gently squeeze out drop after drop of his precum. The supply seems endless, as is my fascination with the stuff. If your man tends to drip a lot of precum, here’s a way to make him blow a double load when he shoots off:

While you jerk him off with one hand, reach below his balls with your other hand and apply some light but constant pressure between his balls and anus. What that does is close off the plumbing that carries the precum and jizz. When your man is ready to explode, let go of the pressure (but pick up the pace on his cock, of course). The first couple of squirts of his orgasm will be pure precum, and then he’ll start pumping his semen. Precum tends to shoot much faster and farther than semen because it has a lighter consistency.

If you want to review this technique before trying it, there is a porn video entitled Home All Alone in which a guy strokes himself off while applying pressure between his balls and anus. When he finally shoots off, the first several shots of precum fly past his head, and he still manages to drench his entire torso. He’d make a terrific volunteer fireman with that hose of his.

Precum brings the good news that semen is on its way. Semen is not just “cock snot” but literally the essence of life. When a man shares his semen, he is sharing his DNA. I humbly suggest that you can’t get any more intimate than that. When I had sex for the first time, I jerked the guy off and became so excited by the sight of his sperm that I crawled on top of him and humped my cock across his slick belly, desperate to add my own sperm to his. It was the best lube I had ever felt.

The next time you masturbate yourself or your man, don’t be too quick to grab a cum-rag. Spend some time luxuriating in the feeling of jizz on skin. Semen is still a vital part of you, even after it has been spilled.

Psychophysiologist Robert B. Stone (whose research is detailed in The Secret Life of Your Cells) has used polygraphy to establish that ejaculated sperm responds measurably to the presence of its donor. In other words, the sperms get jiggy when they are touching the man who shot them. When you spray, feed, or fill up another man with your sperm, you are offering him a living part of you.

You can hardly get any wetter than watersports. Many men I talk to confess that they are secretly turned on by toilet sex. One reason may be the fact that when a man takes a piss, he is spraying sex hormones (such as testosterone) all over the place. So as you are standing at a urinal, you are inhaling the combined sex hormones of potentially hundreds of men, and on top of that you have unzipped your pants and are grabbing your own dick. No wonder a guy feels horny in the men’s room.

Though sharing piss is considered taboo by most people, urine is actually not a waste product. For literally thousands of years, the health benefits of taking urine internally and topically have been documented in India, China, and other countries. There is even an annual world conference on urine therapy. Piss is certainly an acquired taste, but then again so many tastes are.

A discharge of semen in the urine is technically called “spermaturia.” It is more commonly called “piss-cum.” When my man has just shot off and then takes a piss, a drop of spermaturia is likely to hang heavily from his slit. Before he can shake it off, I always kneel down and lick his slit clean, savoring the unique taste of urine mixed with semen. It’s a mellow, salty flavor which lingers on your tongue.

After my man sucks me off, we often deep kiss and he feeds my cum back to me, mixed with his own spit. It is a real turn on for me to think of my man salivating over my jizz, and then to taste what he is tasting. I don’t know the name for cum mixed with spit, but the act of sharing it is called “snowballing” or “snowconing.”

The ancient Vedic texts of India suggest that saliva secreted from under the tongue during lovemaking is a precious nectar to be fed to one’s partner. Although in porn pictures spit is often depicted as a form of degradation (for example, one man forces another man to eat his spit in an act of humiliation), a deep wet kiss is a common way to share and intermingle our saliva.

Like piss and cum, saliva contains sex hormones and is a liquid form of our bodies. As my man fucks me, I love to lock our mouths together and coax out his saliva with my tongue in anticipation of the flow from his cock. It arouses me to think that he is so hungry for my body that his mouth is watering. His spit is a symbol of his sexual appetite.

I love working up a sweat during sex. The intermingling of sweat on skin adds immeasurably to lovemaking. Besides, glistening sweat brings out the contours of a man’s muscles and darkly defines his body hairs. And talk about hormones released in body fluids — sweat takes the cake.

Have you ever noticed that a man’s sweat smells different when he’s horny? It is little known that the apocrine glands in the armpits secrete a special kind of sweat that attracts sexual partners. This sweat is only released when a man is under stress or is sexually aroused. The navel, genitals, and nipples also secrete apocrine sweat, but in lesser amounts than the armpits. If you’ve never sucked on a man’s sweaty armpit hairs during or after sex, you’re missing a sensuous experience.

As we both lie in post-orgasmic stupor, I’m always delighted to see my man’s cock continue to drip fluids. The best term I’ve found for this phenomenon is “after-cum.” I assume it is liquified semen that is slowly finding its way out. It is stickier than precum, but less viscid and less opaque than semen. The fact that it dribbles out effortlessly is testament to how relaxed a man’s body is after fucking. I’ll watch the after-cum collect in the hairs of my man’s thigh, then swipe up the puddle with a finger or my tongue, praising my man’s cock for its constant leak.

What fluids have we forgotten? They are two of the least talked about but perhaps the most profound of all: blood and tears. What could be more controversial and taboo than blood? It conjures all sorts of negative images: infected poison, extreme S&M, vampirism. Gone are the days when young men pricked each others fingers and held them together to become blood brothers. Yet what could be more profound than the bond of blood-brotherhood — two men with the same lifeforce beating through their hearts.

And what of tears? Sex can bring tears of both joy and pain. It can also bring tears of something that transcends bodily feelings and emotions. These are tears of realization, when sexual union transforms into communion and the heat of passion transforms into compassion. “Bliss” might be the best word for this state of being, though words are too limited. One way to inspire such tears is to look deeply into one another’s eyes as you fuck and to hold that gaze even as you both cum.

Passion is most often compared to fire, but it operates more like a river that overflows into a rampage. Similarly, sex should be wet and frothy. If you aren’t ready to settle down into a monogamous relationship, at least practice your safe sex in the shower or hottub. There, your condom is just another kind of shower cap.

Abdul Hamid is a regular contributor to Nightcharm. He is also the creator of the legendary (now defunct) websites Abdul’s Waking Dream and Keepstill.com

All images in this essay are on display from photographer Joe Oppedisano’s radically scintillating book Testosterone — slotted for review in Charmed Life soon. All images ©2007 Joe Oppedisano.

Joe’s latest book careens wildly through a slew of queer male archetypes — from the boisterous brutes mirroring the film Fight Club to Tom of Finland’s golden hunks aglow with their jutting jaws and bulging crotches.