… Because I love men.
Yes that’s the simple answer. To an even simpler question.
We’re gay, you and I. But why? I’m not looking for some DNA in-utero underdeveloped hypothalamus cause. I’m wondering why, every breathing day of our lives, we find men so…hot.
And why is it that we’re willing to pursue these creatures when we’ve been preached at, since birth, that they are exactly whom we are forbidden to love — and fuck?
As a boy, I once mistook a peacock, with its shimmering cobalt tail fanned extravagantly, for female. “No,” my mother corrected, “the more beautiful of each species is usually male.” And of course she was correct. After all, which gender of lion has the mane? Which of the coupled deer has the more impressive tangle of antlers? And to which bird is your eye drawn when a gaudily-feathered rooster struts amidst a sea of lackluster hens?
Ever seen Jennifer Lopez or Jessica Alba without make-up?
Yet why did nature design the male beast in this fashion? Is Mother Nature a fag hag?
Biologists propose that the “sexual dimorphism” of each species is related to parenting: the more drab the female, the less likely she and her young offspring will wind up as a buffet. Conversely, the more flamboyant the male, the more attractive he is to multiple sex partners — but the less invested in parenting.
Sound familiar?
But so much for Sociobiology and the little creatures of the wood. Let’s talk sex! Let’s talk MEN!
A lantern-jawed stud swaggers by in a tight t-shirt and snug jeans. His bulging arms and high, tight ass alert my reptilian brain — he is a good hunter. His large eyes are easy to read–– I can trust him. His face is open, symmetrical — his beauty delights my eye. He is youngish – we will have many years together. He smiles at me — my scrotum tingles, my heart pounds…
Thousands of years ago, the ideal Greco-Roman man was long-limbed with a rippled torso. His thick hair crowned a broad forehead. His wide-set eyes glowered under a serious brow, while his prominent nose and heroic jawline suggested champion lineage. This standard of male beauty still holds today — especially in gay circles. After all, which of us would prefer to bed a teen heartthrob like Shia LeBeouf when you could have an arrogant rugby stud like Juan Martin Berberian (below)?
The male beast is … well, not a boy (sorry, Shia). He’s muscular. Powerful. Hairy. Taut. Everything where it should be, and nothing hanging in blobs. A beast ready for action — my kind of action.
Which brings me back to sex … with him.
What I love about a man is his symphony of contrasts:
Tender lips encircled by beard stubble. Pert nipples atop a broad chest that serves no child-bearing purpose — rather, those granite pecs invite kisses and excite my eye. Hands that are strong enough to strangle — but prefer to caress … knotted sinews that when stroked feel warm … velvety … moist … as arousing as they are aroused.
And his cock…that exquisitely veined shaft that craves my touch as eagerly as I crave touching it, and then fills my throat as if divinely ordained.
When flaccid, his dick says you’re my buddy. But when hard — oh when hard — it tells me with complete candor and forthrightness you’re all I’ve ever wanted!
Think of porn films. Aren’t we always more fascinated by the money-shots? Those sticky splatters of sperm tell us that his power and his violent potential have surrendered — if only during that moment of release. For when the dick erupts, only then is the male beast absolutely vulnerable.
And absolutely happy.
To my eyes, men are nature’s most wondrous creation. What a piece of work is man, to quote the Bard. His eyes sparkle mischievously, his arms embrace lovingly. His musculature is as lyrical as his baritone is swoon-inducing. He laughs, he works, he eats, he sleeps. He jacks off and he fucks. In action, truly, how like an angel! In apprehension, how like a god!
Now don’t tell me that this bicep-popping grandeur has evolved solely to perpetuate the species and is not to be appreciated — or even celebrated — for his own sake.
No, my brothers, this is exactly where you and I — with our highly developed sense of beauty (not to mention our semen-swilling sexuality) — fit into the grand evolutionary scheme
Our kin comprise about ten percent of the population. And if that ten percent had been procreating over the last two millennia as society — rather unsuccessfully — had “mandated” us to, the earth would simply be overrun with people fighting for even less food, even less land.
And so I propose that it is you and I and our kind that have saved civilization; that our fascination with, our pursuit of, and our frenzied passion for the male beast — and his arcing cum shots — has kept the safety valve of humanity open and well-lubricated.
To the benefit of the entire globe.
Mankind needs us, my brothers. And we, lucky lads that we are, need and love mankind.
The men who appear in this piece are professional models.
We make no assertions about their sexual identity — only to remark
in passing that boy oh boy they certainly confirm ours!
I’m sorry, while I agree wholeheartedly with what your saying, isn’t that speech just a little over the top? and might I ask why there aren’t any men of color among those pictures? Hell, Shemar Moore finally revealed all and nothing of it is mentioned on this site? Try adding a little color to your spectrum.
a symphony of contrasts…
Provocative. I never really thought of my penchant for all that is male as an appreciation of bitter and sweet, soft and hard, or coarse and silky. Nolan nailed that elusive aspect that makes me sweat, tremble and stir. Good job.
And, thanks for the Juan Martin Berberian pic…dios mio!
It seriously makes me wonder about the nature of reality when I find someone thinking so many of the same things as I am esp. at the same time…you*re homoerotic/gay observations brought some poetry to my day.Yes…if there is a grand scheme…we somehow all play an important part in it.I*ve thought the same thing many years ,,,that our prescence is desperatly neede in an overcrowded world.NATURE SEEKS BALANCE. (by the way…last count was 20% & only a conservative estimate.IE.GAY
Loved the piece. THANKS
Man, I gotta agree with Peke — where r the brothers of color??????????
Ah yes, the old notion that gay people exist to control population growth. For all the poetry you surround it with, it accepts the notion that the only purpose of sexuality is reproduction, adding a footnote that too much reproduction is bad.
It paints gay people as useful, in the same way that eunuchs and celibate people are useful as a balance. And useful to who? To the straight world. In other words, “Please don’t hate us, straight folks – we work for the same company as you, just a different department.”
Besides, if the human population were small, as arguably it has been for most history, that would make gay people functionless and actually destructive if they exist at these times.
I find this reductionist thinking to be saddening. So gay men are only there to NOT procreate? Then what of gay men (and lesbians) who do just that? How does your argument take into account that those folks find parenting such a huge part of their lives?
I won’t even go into my personal history because I am obviously not being a ‘good gay’ if I procreated. As an ode to male beauty, it is fine (if the photos are admittedly limited in scope) but as justification of homosexuality, it seems to be pandering.
DON’T HURT US, WE’RE JUST DOING YOU A FAVOR BY SUCKING UP ALL THAT EXCESS SLOOGE!!
Oh MY GOD, Peke, does everything need to be about color? Can’t we all just enjoy the photos without worrying about whether or not Nightcharm is being politically correct?
One of the crudest and most sexist jokes I ever heard was back when I was in the Coast Guard from some guys around the barracks. It went something like this:
Q: What’s the definition of a woman?
A: Life-support system for a pussy.
Another feature of it, obviously, is that it’s not terribly funny. But it always struck me as having a kernel of truth about the way straight men often relate to women, coming through the unfiltered mind of a lightly educated enlisted man without a lot of prospects, one for whom there was no possibility of envisioning love of a woman as something spiritual or for whom any kind of emotional or intellectual connection was impossible. It kinda stripped things down to basics for those guys, and when you got past anyh kind of illusion about mind or soul, you were left with just body, and the dark secret I think, even for these straight guys, was that most women aren’t terribly beautiful. Female beauty is a kind of construct that takes a lot of work–as you note, even the most beautiful woman usually isn’t beautiful without makeup and all the other props that enhance her allure. Imagine Jennifer Lopez, flawless ass and all, waking up in bed after a night of sex, with the props all gone. You don’t need to imagine too hard to see how unsexy that would be. That joke acknowledged in some way that when it came down to it, for a lot of guys, it was all about getting that warm, wet clench of flesh on their dicks, and they were sadly realistic about what came with it, what you had to do to get it.
This isn’t intended to be sexist, but just to say that I think Nick’s right about the male of the species. Guys tend to be as sexy waking up in the morning as they were when they went to bed the night before. No props needed. Don’t have to shave or fix the hair or spritz on cologne. Better not to in fact. And there’s the phenom of some men actually getting sexier as they get older. That almost never happens with women (OK, maybe Helen Mirren..), and the props tend to get sadder as women age.
Again, I don’t mean this to be sexist. Ultimately, what’s important isn’t about looks. But observing the reality of the energy behind sexual attraction is interesting, and it seems to be true that the male of every species gets the juju. Use it wisely men.
okay, cool. now, guys…i’m a red blooded gay guy too, but you sound like a bunch of chauvinist wankers! Dave O told us twice that his post was ‘not intended to be sexist’ but that’s exactly what it was. You wanna know my take on evolution and sexuality? I’ve heard some accounts of evolution which assume female promiscuity and males’ subsequent strategies to overcome this eg evolving a penis shaped in such a way as to be able to scoop out the sperm deposited by their competitors. Another example is the funny way some animals like dogs get stuck together after copulation, perhaps due to some substance in the male’s sperm, which in any case prevents the female from engaging in another coupling before his sperm has had time to fertilize her egg. The point is that the male of the species is at a disadvantage, having to compete with others to produce offspring.
Which brings us to the patriarchic society we live in today- one premised on monogamous marriage, which has allowed men to ensure the paternity of their children and, in some related fashion, control women and equate their value with their sexual and reproductive functions. So now global fashion and cosmetic industries turn over billions manufacturing the props the post above referred to, leading to the sexualisation of half the human race, while men such as Dave O congratulate themselves on their ‘juju’.
Mate, get your hand off it.
you are very sexy
okay anon, what’s wrong with wanting to see something that represents me as a gay man? I just wanted to see a little diversity in the mix, every gay site you go on it’s the same thing over and over, i just wanna see something that represents me, do you have a problem with that?
Thanks for that jonnyrascal.
It’s a shame that some people feel the need to make a point about the beauty of men by denegrating women.
I hate to break it to you, but only a minute fraction of the population look like the guys in those pics. Most men are not beautiful, as neither are most women. SOME women are beautiful (even without makeup etc), and SOME men are (very much so).
Just sayin’.
I think I’d actually rather hook up with Shia LeBeouf. He’s intelligent and charming. I’m only 22, but I’ve already had enough experience to know that going for the raw and glittery guy who catches your eye isn’t all that satisfying. I remember fantasizing about this kind of stuff when I was like 17, but don’t you eventually outgrow it?
this was such a delightful description of how attractive a man is to another man. i was quite ready to look past the “duty” aspect of gay sex, and to not even pretend that color matters. frankly, the text was so alluring that i never needed to view the models to imagine how stately and majestic and downright sexy men are.
thanks, nick nolan, for stating some things i have wondered about myself.
Well, I’ve posted here on and off. When I arrived I declared I wasn’t a gay man. No reason to keep declaring it. But yes, I’m female. Sam is short for Samantha.
I have to say, sometimes I feel torn reading this site. I’ve gotten a lot of insight, smiled a lot, and been intrigued with the respectable level of intelligent musings. But, at times I feel a little put down as a gender. And this is one of those times.
The original post by Nick is one of the best I’ve read, just brilliant. Brilliant and utterly poetic. But at the same time, it assumes too much and it’s sexist, as the subsequent postings can testify to.
Women are beautiful. Women are also more than pussies. (Just as men are more than dicks). Women get more beautiful generally as they mature if they take care of themselves. And if they stop piling on makeup and live a more natural life, they look better all year round without it, with the sun on their faces. They live longer as well, and instead of peaking at 18 like the males, tend to blossom in their 40’s. Don’t we adore a mature Meryl Streep, Julie Andrews, Anne Bancroft, Katherine Hepburn, etc…much more than the 20ish versions of themselves? Of course we do.
And about evolution…gay men and women fit right in, we’ve obviously evolved together. A man’s testicles, by the way, are sized as they are due to reproductive competition from other males. If gay men had no need to procreate throughout history, then their balls would be the size of peanuts. No….the dna of gay people are in the gene pool and have guided our path through history. I tend to think those renaissance days and eras of honor which sprout in every culture around the globe are due to the contribution of gay genes, and in turn, to the survival of the species.
So yes, what a piece of work is man. And what a glorious creation is woman.
Sam, Nightcharm loves you. We hope you know that. Your comments are always smart and well thought out and welcome here.
In fact, all our women readers are welcome here, and we enjoy when you join in the conversation.
Still and all, we must say the obvious. This is a site for gay men about men. And for many men, other men are just dicks. We have our evolved types and we have our cavemen — as you surely must have expected.
So Nightcharm is a place where gay men can express themselves without censorship and, when necessary, vent. And we would be less than honest if we pretended that Nick’s views were not shared by a certain sizable group of gay men, who see male qualities as superior to female ones. We are talking in the broadest stereotypes here, but if we’re being honest isn’t that often the reflexive, spontaneous way the mind sees things? And if truth be told, this view is not specifically a gay one. We suspect it’s even more prevalent among straight men, who, though they have no desire to have sex with other men, love the company of other men and really resent that women have the power of sex over them.
So Sam, as they say in the 12 step programs, take the best and leave the rest. Of course, women are beautiful. And of course, we are all tied together in our humanity. Write on, sweet Sam. Write on.
To Sam(antha) –
Thank you so much for your praise of my piece. Clearly you write beautifully, and to be appreciated by such an audience is very flattering. I’d just like to clarify that I do not think of men as being superior to women; to my gay eyes, some men are just more naturally ‘beautiful’, period. Does that mean that I don’t find women beautiful? Of course not – I almost had a heart attack over Penelope Cruz in ‘Volver’. But I also find the scientific theory of ’sexual dimorphism’ to be fascinating. And John’s comments above echo my feelings quite accurately, but I would like to squeeze the word ’some’ into one of his lines, so that it reads, “…gay men, who see ’some’ male qualities as superior to female ones.”
Thanks again,
Roger
Roger, thank you, both for responding and clarifying. You DO write wonderfully and with such control. And regarding the content I found myself hanging on each word.
John, thanks so much for the encouragement and the welcome. I think that was great to hear.
…”if we’re being honest isn’t that often the reflexive, spontaneous way the mind sees things?”
I do value honesty above almost anything. In a world which seems to be drowning in dishonesty, I crave authenticity. I do not respond well to people who are false and full of pretense, it is not in my nature. That’s one reason, I suppose, that I enjoy this site.
Also one other brief note about something you said John in regards to straight men and the power they supposedly give up to women sexually. I know that’s the standard line, and the traditional way of looking at the things. But I don’t buy it, because women just don’t have enough worldly power, societal power, or even sometimes power within relationships. There is always that imbalance. What is incredible about men with other men, and you may not have even realized this yourself, but the power imbalance naturally doesn’t exist. There is an equality there…it’s refreshing to see.
Always,
Sam
i have to address this to sam. i write as a gay man who happens to also be married to a woman. i have found it very difficult to comprehend my urges over time to be with a man sexually and to seek the comfort of masculine arms, and the taste and texture of a man’s body. having said that, i have to proclaim that much of the article in question described impeccably how i feel about masculinity and the male body.
my sexual aptitude is high in regard to both men and women, but i have to admit that my desire for men outpaces that for women, and my wife and i (honestly, for a variety of reasons) are inactive sexually. because of my marital status, i have also been inactive sexually with other men, though i am drawn that way.
at any rate, i look at this article as a well-written compendium of the vagaries of man-man love and it was thorough in its explanation (for me) of just what is so attractive in the male body and the male psyche. the power that women have over straight men is not so much innate but also given by those very same men.
i have to also express my gratitude to nightcharm for allowing this forum to concentrate on these issues. it is a wonderful release as well as a source for enlightenment for me, and (i am sure) for many other men suffering inhibitions in their gay sexual lives.
George-
You are a sorry soul, not only denying yourself any joy and happiness in your life, but also denying it for the woman who (as I can only assume, since you married her) you love. I hope that reading the insights on NC and other sources will give you the courage to end the lie, and allow yourself and your partner to flourish. Life is too short to imprison yourself in unhappiness.
George,
I’m not sure why you addressed your post to me, but yes I can appreciate how you feel and how it must certainly validate your desire and admiration of men. “I write as a gay man” is also a very positive statement. But the rest of what you wrote is disconcerning.
A site like this is kind of a declaration of freedom. Many visitors seem to enjoy sharing in that freedom from what they express here. But unfortunately, from what I see, your own life is far from free. Your mind is restless and your body is bound. I think you’re trying to explain why, but no marriage of convenience is worth your life. We all have only one.
You’ll notice the article you read and enjoyed used words like love, sex, divine, trust, vulnerable, happy, and even “lucky.” That is not creative writing. Those words in fact, come naturally to the mind of somebody who is leading a purposefully honest life.
I hope I’m not coming across preachy, because I’ve had to deal with inhibitions myself. But we both know there is only one direction for you to go in. And…although Jeffy may be right to an extend about your spouse, she is really beside the point. Regardless of the circumstances, by the end of the day she has what she wants. You don’t, and that is not fair to you. You are not for sale, and certainly god did not grant you the right to barter your life away to your marriage, your wife, your kids, your church, your job, or anything else on that list.
Thanks,
Sam
well that sucks no crotch shot
Pete, If you would like an article that represented more of what you would like to see. I am sure this sight or another would be more than willing to have you submit one, go through the editing process and see where it lands. Most articles are, more or less, for the author and we get the enjoyment from reading them. Would it have made a difference if there were no pictures at all or would you still be up in arms. There is an old saying, you can’t please all the people all time… so, please yourself with no harm to others. Also, there are more colors than just White and Black … what about Asian, South Pacific, Indian and Russian among others. Think outside your box. Thanks, Eric
wow. that was awesome. ive been tellin my best frend for a long time now that we re here on earth for wut u said. amazing. no critism, lol.
and you see, this is why being a fag hag sucks. because we usually, one way or the other, fall in love with our gay men precisely for this reason. we love them because they are so strikingly beautiful. masculine, and understanding at the same time.