When I was 14 years old, my mom apologized for having me circumcised as an infant.
I was in the back seat of the car while my dad was driving, and though I don’t quite remember how the issue came up, I do remember feeling, naturally, horribly awkward about discussing my penis with my parents.
My mom said it hadn’t been explained well by the doctors, and that once the nurse brought me back to her with my “fists clenched and white,” she knew she’d made a mistake.
“I don’t care,” I said.
“I don’t think about it — can we just change the subject?”
I didn’t even know what an uncircumcised penis looked like. I knew something about it having skin that would cover the tip, but I couldn’t picture where that skin attached. Did it just hang down from the head like a second scrotum or an earlobe?
The mysteriousness of it turned to a perverse curiosity, and it happened that my first boyfriend, who I dated when I was 19, was uncut. By then I’d learned what to expect by watching porn, but I couldn’t have predicted how turned on I’d be to see an uncircumcised penis in the flesh. The shaft seemed more thrust forward and determined, without that circular scar in the middle that would break up the shape, and I loved the way my boyfriend’s cock could tuck itself into a sheath when flaccid — it looked just as hot to me then as it did hard.
There is debate in the gay community about the ethics of circumcision; many have strong aesthetic preferences for one or the other that seem to seep into their political judgment. To me it became clear what I’d rather be, because, while I could never be certain that my boyfriend felt more than I did, it was damned obvious that he didn’t feel anything less.
I could get him off just rolling his foreskin between my fingers, and there was a lot to play with using my tongue. If I wanted the skin to be taught I could pull it back, and if I wanted it loose I could pull it forward. He moaned and bit his lip the same either way, and I was jealous that I couldn’t feel for myself what he felt. I’m sure that much of what made his cock so hot to me was the sense that I was experiencing a foreskin by proxy.
Months after my boyfriend and I broke up, I found a website selling devices that claimed to re-grow foreskins by stretching the skin on the shaft until it covers the glans. After doing enough research to assure it was safe, I ordered one of the cheaper kits and tried it, attaching the rubber cone to an elastic strap that I wrapped loosely around my thigh under my jeans each day for about a year.
Since the progress was painfully slow and since I wasn’t entirely committed, I didn’t get an “uncut” look before I gave up — though I did like what I saw in the end; looser skin that I could do a lot more with and it still looked natural.
In the shower I could grab the skin of my penis halfway down the shaft, at the scar, and pull it over the head until I looked — at least while I was holding it — exactly as if I were uncircumcised. The constant covering of the device let the skin get softer and more sensitive, too. But it could never give a full sense of what it would be like to be intact, and unless I held the skin forward no one would doubt that I was cut.
While an uncut cock isn’t enough to make or break a deal finding a guy attractive, it undoubtedly scores him a few extra points with me and can easily nudge him over that threshold. Whether it’s foreskin-envy, that it reminds me of the first guy I fell for, or if it simply triggers a crude, animalistic instinct far deeper than anything I can rationalize, there’s something about that shape, a penis in all its nature-given glory, that never fails to capture my attention.
Art Credit:Opening illustration: Details from Harold Stevenson’s The New Adam. 1962. From the Abrams book Male Desire: The Homoerotic in American Art by Jonathan Weinberg. © Harry N. Abrams. All rights reserved.
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It is always awkward when your penis gets brought up into conversation. Especially when family members are around the kitchen table with a meatloaf or lasagna on the table. At least you were in the car, where being in the backseat you could dodge the glances from the rearview mirror of your father, or maybe cradle yourself in a ball behind the front seats. For past twenty-something years I have lived with a non-circumsized penis. Most of my life, I spent feeling ashamed of my extra skin. It didn’t help being a boy scout and going to summer camp which requires you to shower with hundreds of other boys. (No, there weren’t any individual showers or curtains). Before I realized I was gay, I would make sure the skin was pulled back before every sexual encounter with a girl. I didn’t want to frighten her with my un-American cock. I once made the mistake and told a friend what my mother used to scream through the bathroom door while I took a shower and he hasn’t let it down since. Always, without fail she would ask, “Did you pull the skin back?” I know she was just making sure I gave it a thorough washing but I can’t help to think about her every time the luffa makes it’s way below the waist.
to be perfectly honest about my aesthetic preferences seeping into my political judgement . . .
C U T RULES ! ! !
But somehow I do feel a boy, or later a man if he needs more time to choose, should be able to decide for himself, so let’s stop circumcising automatically. Who’s been circucised at a later age and lived to tell about it? ;-))
here in Europe you run into lots of Moslim and Asian guys. All I’ve had in my mouth were . . . CUT
this is a beautiful piece and captures exactly what I, a cut guy, love so much about uncut cocks - there’s an amazing texture and feel to them.
mind you i am an equal opportunity cock sucker…
funnily enough since I’ve had my PA, my cock head sits back and the skin comes up around it - it’s much looser than it used to be.
I am uncut and enjoy my foreskin. I’m so lad my parents decided to spare me the knife. Masturbation is a dream, especially since I don’t need lube and squishing sounds when the precum gets under the foreskin are a turn on. When having oral with another uncut guy, it’s so cool to be able to pull that skin up to my mouth.
My glans is so sensitive too. Hurray for foreskin.Let’s face it, it’s the way God intended for us to be.
This one time in our car my Parents apologized to me for not having better genes to pass on to me. Mom said she would have picked a better father for me too if she had known more about dad’s male pattern baldness gene. This “story reeks of BS from top to bottom. Sorry if you don’t like my opinion.
I am an uncut and have only had one problem.My cock becomes sensitive after the second or third round.Much as I would ,ike to go again,I have to gently push my partner away and beg off going again.is this a problem with the foreskin,or is it pretty normal in some or most cut guys.I would really like to know.
i am an uncut guy as well and i am so insecure about it too… but, as someone stated before me, im kinda happy because i dont have to use lube… its kinda nice :)… those sounds under my foreskin are REALLY hot! also, i like that when im having an orgasm, i rub my foreskin and it gives me EXTRA pleasure aside from trapping my cum there for easier clean up
hey sometimes i save it to put in my mouth 
I was circumcised as a baby and the doctor botched the procedure. I don’t experience all of the sensations other guys do (although I’m not, fortunately, numb). My mother, too, apologized to me for having it done. But back then, it was a standard procedure. I’ve played with some hot uncuts and have never ran into the “cheese” some people are so afraid of. It’s just a matter of hygiene. I wouldn’t want to eat an ass right after a guy takes a dump either!
I’m cut, and prefer cut. I had one lover who was uncut and it wasn’t fun for him or me (I’ll spare the details)
Older guys who wait and get cut by choice or circumstance have a much harder time not popping their stitches when they get morning wood in particular. It’s much kinder to do the cutting very, very young than wait till the teens/adult years. It’s also not as aesthetically pleasing to see an older organ cut and stitched up with scars.
Just my two cents. I know there are many who disagree.
All I ask is that the uncut guys keep their business clean. I’d been with a number of uncut guys who were great about this and never had a problem. Then I was with guy who wasn’t good about cleaning his unit and SWEET MERCIFUL JESUS I nearly vomited from the smell. Not! Pretty!
Interesting comment Wolf. I suspect more guys would choose to keep all of their penis if circumcision wasn’t performed on babies. The few adult males opting for circumcision would at least be doing it under informed consent.
The choice would be theirs. I believe that his the central point.
Once cut, the foreskin cannot put it back on. Stretch the existing skin, but that doesn’t return the thousands of nerves, and other important structures lost. Additionally, when circumcision is done wrong, the guy that wasn’t given any option has to live with a ruined penis, not his mother, not his father and certainly not the one that made the mistake.
Plus, all the cocks that I’ve played with, the natural ones are the best.
I’m uncut, but it seems a bit different than some of the other uncut dicks i’ve played with out there. The glans is about 2/3 covered when i’m soft, and then not at all when i’m hard. I haven’t a “cheese” problem at all, although i suppose it smells a bit funky in the morning if i’ve gotten off the night before and not showered. I think anybody does though. ANYWAY what i wanted to get to was the sensitivity thing. I certainly enjoy lubeless jerking, but sometimes the sensitivy is a crappy thing. It’s taken years to start enjoying the feeling of receiving head. Seriously. The skin is *so* soft, that a tongue’s silkyness can actually go almost unfelt, like there’s not enough friction to stimulate the nerves, or, if a whole bunch of the tongue rubs all at once, say in a 69, it overwhelms me with spine-jolting sex energy thats too much at once. OK, so i’ve just talked myself into finding more head, to find the balance. Thought i’d share
My mom regrets having me cut, too. She knew she had made the wrong decision after the procedure, when she saw that the doctors had left me “a bloody mess.”
I’m not at all angry or bitter over being circumsized, though I too wish it hadn’t been done, but I wonder what it must have felt like to parents like my and the author’s mothers, seeing their baby boys right after circumcision and suddenly having a change of heart when it was too late. Beyond any guilt, deserved or not, I wonder if they felt in any way deceived by their doctors?
I also was cut at birth and I completely relate with your story. I, like you, have used some foreskin restoration devices and achieved enough extra skin to make things more pleasurable. I think most guys would lose their aversion to foreskin and uncut cocks if circumcision was less of a widespread practice in America.
I wish my parents had spared me the scalpel at birth and often wonder what my cock would look like intact. I adore and fetishize foreskin when I’m lucky to find it here in the States. (All my partners with foreskin have been foreigners.) And yet none of my partners have ever said he wished I was uncut (though I wish all my partners were uncut!). My lover, who was circumcized as an adult for medical purposes, prefers cut and is totally happy with my member. So maybe I was lucky to get cut. Still, I wonder and wish and fantasize and fetishize.
I’m all about guys having a choice in the matter and I think that’s where we’ll eventually evolve to in this country. Having lived a good portion of my life in Italy I have a decided preference for intact penises. I’m cut and even though I love my penis I sure would prefer to have foreskin.
Guys who don’t keep their foreskins clean are a rarity - so rare in fact that in the 40+ years that I’ve been having sex, with mostly intact guys, I’ve never run into someone who had a dirty foreskinned dick. I understand that there are those who have a preference for cut just like I have a preference for intact. That’s cool. But this argument that cut dicks are cleaner is just total bullshit. Maybe in some parts of the world but not in the States and certainly not in Europe.
Somebody further up mentioned that their cut penis appears to have more skin around the head since they got their PA. I’ve had exactly the same experience - been pierced for a few years now and have been wearing a 00 circular barbell for the last couple of years and the weight appears to be pulling things enough that I’m growing some extra skin right about where the circ scar is.
Anyway, regarding circumcision, the choice should have been mine.
I must admit - both Gerry Ferry’s & Tom Clark’s comments work well with me - as I have heard so much bullshit about cut & uncut.
The facts as I see it- speaking as a guy who has a natural loose foreskin!
1) Most of the guys I’ve known as partners and school friends all had foreskins and I can say with honesty- I ‘ve never met or come across any guy with a smelly foreskin/ cock. Let’s face it- if his cock is dirty and smelly - what’s going on in his mouth for God sake?
2)Wanking- for me - you can’t beat pulling on a foreskin when your having a good wank, especially when the pre -cum starts oozing out and the natural movement of the foreskin spreads it around the glans, it’s so fucking nice and slippy.
Uncut guys - I have to say I feel sorry for you guys I met who are cut,they have very strange ways of holding their cock and seem to take ages to cum, but I have to say a cut big glans does look rather sexy. But in summary, I’m keeping my foreskin cause I love it….:>)
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rand0m:
I think you’re right re: it being such a widespread thing. A great number of us born before the 70s/80s were just cut by unspoken decree. “It’s a boy, let’s circumcise.”
I’m not unhappy with the procedure. I don’t find uncut attractive. But that’s just me, and I wouldn’t try to “restore” my foreskin if I could.
Now that it’s more of an awareness/optional issue, I suspect it’ll be done less, and in the future people won’t be so accepting of automatically cutting.
BTW, when I worked in a large hospital, I watched a circumcision. That poor child was most definitely NOT having fun. I’ll never forget it…but I still prefer cut on my guys.
Well, I was one of the botched jobs done soon after birth. The doctor cut off too much, so I get uncomfortably tight with every erection, and have trouble reaching a climax without doing it myself. In fact, I’ve only ever come once (in 51 years) without my own help. I wish the doctor had kept the knife to himself.
I didn’t know about this until I started living with a female classmate in my third year at university. I’m gay, so we weren’t having sex, but my mother assumed we were, and said to me one day that she was glad that I could make a woman happy; she had been afraid FROM WHAT THE DOCTOR TOLD HER that I would have trouble (having sex). At that point I wanted to sue the bloody doctor, but I really wasn’t in a situation to do so; I would have had to admit publicly that I was gay, and in any case the statute of limitations on that sort of case had already run out.
I made my only, dear sister swear that she would never have her children circumcised. But she’s only had girls. I wish I could be more vocal about the dangers of this violence that is perpetrated on babies who have no way of avoiding it.
My happiest years were with a wonderful, uncut Japanese guy. He was a little sensitive, but that made giving him pleasure so much more satisfying.
My vote’s for uncut. One thing not mentioned, yet: uncircumcised men are better tops! IMO. The sensitivity factor seems to let them take their time.
I’m surprised it took 20 comments for someone to mention the back door angle. It really is easier on the bottom and the top if the top is uncut. The skin rolls rather than scrapes the inside.
Daniel’s leads to a bi note: should be the same for the vagina and especially the clit. When will mankind stop trying to improve on Mother Nature.
Knew an uncut years ago who had a great time catching a fly, removing its wings, and getting off just by having those little feet triggering off the nerves as they walked around the edge.
Guys, how do they do circumcision in your countries?
I’ve read some have problems on their circumcised member.
well, in Asia they just expose the glans. And suture
the foreskin on both sides. They don’t cut and remove
the foreskin. So, It’s still there. So i think it will still be
sensitive the same way, plus easier to clean and will
never smell.
I have a Filipino friend whose glans is exposed at the top, but on the bottom he still has his frenulum and full foreskin. It’s an interesting look (but not hot, sadly), and lets him keep his sensitivity (at least the nerves).
I don’t know if I agree with the conclusion that less circumcision will be performed in the future, since more studies come out with time showing less infection rates for certain STD’s and aids. It’s more of a choice now, but I imagine many parents will continue the practice. I don’t think it’s anything you necessarily have to appologize for, as a parent.
SAM: I don’t think it’s anything you necessarily have to appologize for, as a parent.
Then you’ve never met someone in a situation like mine. Then again, to be honest, I don’t want my parents to apologize; it’s the doctor who messed up the job that should be apologizing (see above, yours truly on April 5th).
uncut is best than cut because uncut won’t dry when cover skin have precum or wet keep not dry and cut dry fast cause there no cover skin and gross, most cut is for jewish. cut is too hard for masturbation that sad…